The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

Wondrous is the affair of the believer for there is good for him in every matter and this is not the case with anyone except the believer. If he is happy, then he thanks Allah and thus there is good for him, and if he is harmed, then he shows patience and thus there is good for him.

Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.

Choose to be optimistic, it feels better.

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

Your wealth and your children are only a trial (fitnah). And Allah - With Him is a great reward (Paradise)".